My friend was telling me about how this guy was dogging one of his relatives out. My friend is a real big player so I ask him why he does not put her up on the game. He tells me “it’s too late he got her where he wants now”. I was like wow. But I know that statement is powerful and true to many women relationships. That is one of the main reasons women keep a no good man because in the beginning it was so good he was the perfect man. You spent time together, he did nice things for you, he bought you things. If you have kids he good with the kids. When you were not together he was checking up on you. He basically sells you an illusion. Then this happens one day you don’t see him. You think nothing of it but that is the day things change. Because now he figures he got you and you are not going anywhere.
Now he is not spending time like he used to but he has logical excuses as to why not and its easy because he knows you well. He’s training you now. Meanwhile you are in a spot where you have this routine with him and everything has been about him. This causes an imbalance in your life. So now you do not know what to do with yourself. It really does not matter because you are constantly thinking of him. Now you are miserable and he is still living his best life. Right now is time to pick the pieces up and move on. But instead you sit there and remember how it used to be and hope it’s going to get like that again. But it’s not. Because he was only running a game to get you where he wanted you to be. Now he is doing the same to someone else. Maybe laying up with his real woman. While you sit there thinking about the good old days hoping they come back.
The number one thing women do is tell A man all her business. He is eating it up. She’s thinking if he knows what I’ve been through he will not hurt me. He takes in knowledge. Trying to see how weak she is. Seeing what she will take. Getting to know her. She is so busy talking that she really does not get to know him. Women really reveal their inner self to men too soon. Just as it’s important not to sleep with men too soon, you don’t strip your insides either. Women we love when men listen to us we tell our business our friends business as long as he listening.
Another reason is women are sleeping with men too fast, getting them emotional attachments. I guarantee if you had not had sex with him his disappearance would have minimal effect. Then you are in the position of adding another stain to your window pane by moving on sexually with someone else. Based on the situation he may care or not but you deserve to be happy. Not being a hypocrite because unfortunately I am not a virgin, but the bible tells us not to have sex before marriage and only with your spouse. Maybe the bible is on to something. But moving on puts you in a position to be called a hoe. The thing is, the next dude might do the same thing and the next. The whole time you are looking for love. But you are getting a reputation. But check out my article why women should not sleep with a man before marriage for more about sex before marriage.
Another reason why A woman stays with a no good man is she hopes he will love her enough to change. So they work with them because she sees the potential in him. She tries to nourish and love him to where he needs to be. But too many times men take that love for granted. Then you keep holding on because you have invested in him. You do not want your work to be in vain. Once again you are hoping he will change for you because he sees what a good woman you are. He should not want to lose you. But realize you are probably competing with Becky, Shirley, and Jennifer. They are good women also. Furthermore, why do you have to prove yourself to him? Why not make him prove himself to you? The thing is men talk about female gold diggers but some men are gold diggers also.
So a woman has to worry about a man using her for sex and she also has to worry about him using her for money, cars and other material things. Do not have a baby because he will keep you so you do not put child support on him. What a woman should worry about is what he is bringing to the table. What makes him qualified to be in your life. So many good for nothing men walk around and females treat him like he is the prize. They know you are going to forgive them so they do not care. These men thrive off of women who love them. He knows you and knows what to say to make you come back to him.
I also do not think women understand they are conquests for many men. The more women men sleep with, the higher their status is in the male community. Men love to brag about the women they have slept with to their friends. Lots of times they tell their friends so they can try you up for your goods. The female was thinking dude like her but in reality his boy told him all about your sexual escapades so now he wants some. That is the only thing he wants. But the female goes in thinking they are trying to build a relationship. So from the beginning you all are on different pages.
I think one of the biggest reasons women stay in a bad relationship is the idea of being in love. Sometimes I think some women just want to be in love and in a relationship just to say they are in one. We listen to the love music and want to feel that. We see other people that seem to be in love and we want that. But for many women it is hell getting that. Maybe they get tired of the back and forth that men take us through and just settle. They want to have that man to take to gatherings, to spend time with, and talk about things with. So they imitate love. Even though it is not real and they are unhappy as hell at least they got a man. In reality the females are the prize. He is so busy being a male hoe he does not have time to make himself a prize or appreciate the prize he has in women..
He is not going to change. Especially when you keep catering to him and forgiving him. He has no motivation to change his ways. If you leave him once and he comes back and does it again it should be over because once it gets to the third time then it becomes routine. He is secure in the relationship. Ladies value yourself and do not settle for men who dont appreciate you.